Let yourself be seen, with all of your imperfections. It’s certainly easier as you grow older, but hopefully you won’t wait that long! You’ll find it is not only wonderful for you but is also a gift for everyone in your life.
Just as when you are kinder, you find that so are the people with whom you interact. It is also true, that when you stop apologizing for little mistakes and allow others to see your vulnerabilities, they too can feel themselves letting down their guard and becoming more vulnerable. Such an honor for both people.
We’ve all been places where everything is in its place and the order is meticulously maintained. There’s a dis-ease in such environments. You become self conscious of your every action because of your concern for not upsetting the clearly and strictly ordered apple cart. There is an implied judgement if you don’t think to use a coaster or take off your shoes or know which towel to dry your hands on, because clearly they do and clearly there is a right and a wrong way and clearly you should know it.
It’s the same with our emotional state. In the presence of someone who is critical and judgemental, our own sensitivity meter is on alert. We may not buy into their judgements but often we will monitor our behavior using their yard stick.
Conversely, when you are in the presence of someone who is able to show their own weaknesses and not apologize for every little mis-step, they send the message that those who are with them have permission to be themselves, burps, brilliance and all. And those people who show us their vulnerable side, don’t we all just love them? Try being vulnerable; people will see that you’re loveable.
Smile. Be happy.
Ruth
Be an Open Door.
Door Handle Smiley